Party Girl

First off, I'm sorry for not posting in awhile. Believe me when I say that life has been a little crazy since my last entry! ;) Figured I would give a quick update on my job and then move onto other topics. I've been here for almost a month now and am really liking it. :) I have my own cubicle, which I've only decorated with a few photo's at this point, and I've gotten to know a few co-workers pretty well and think they are just awesome. It's a fun job and hope to stay here for awhile to come. :)

Anyway, there have been two big things taking up my time lately. The first is Shannon and our nights out together. Lately we've been seizing opportunities to go to clubs and such. The first we went to was at the beginning of January and it was China Blue downtown. That was kind of odd and I didn't like the guys hitting on me, but I guess it wasn't enough to put me off of it forever! We went to a bar in Nampa a couple of times because the guy Shannon was dating was DJing there. We've been to a place called the Bull's Head Pub a couple of times (we were there last night). And last weekend we went to a hookah bar, some 18+ dance club downtown, and to Cowgirls in Kuna with a few of my coworkers, which was awesome! It's been really fun actually. Once I get up enough courage to join Shannon on the dance floor, I'm pretty much always guaranteed a good time. :) We have now deemed Thursday nights as our night to go out and cut loose...although it is making Fridays at work pretty rough for me!!

Now the second reason I've been busy is that I'm dating somebody. :) I was going to wait until the divorce was finalized to write anything about it but the papers are at the courthouse and we're just waiting for them to be processed...plus Ryan already knows about it so I figured there's no reason to keep it a secret now. We've been dating/talking for about a month now. It's been good. :) We aren't officially an item or anything, but I can at least say on my end that I'm not dating anybody else. We spend every weekend together (he works during the week) and it's always a lot of fun. He's very understanding of my whole situation, which is nice. Anyway, I don't want to spill too much. He does know about my blog so I don't want him to come on here and find me spilling my guts about our situation. ;)

Well, I am being a little more proactive with my apartment search lately. I looked at two places yesterday. One seemed like a real possibility until I found out that they wanted a $200 non-refundable deposit per cat and needed them to be declawed. I'm going to look at a place after work tonight...it looks really nice but is in Caldwell so that's a definite con.

I guess that's about it for now. I will try to do a better job of updating from now on. :) Hope everyone had a good January and are having an even better February!

First Day

I figured I would write a quick entry to inform anyone who hadn't already heard from Facebook that I got the job I had interviewed for at the College of Western Idaho. =) I am now a "Records Specialist" in their Registrar's Office, but really what I will mostly be doing is scheduling of classes and events on campus. It's full time, pays pretty well, and has full benefits so it was a real blessing to get.

Anyway, today was my first day there. We had a college-wide meeting to start the day off so I got to hear the President of the college speak. After that, we headed back to the office and I pretty much spent the rest of my day working on spreadsheets. Right now I am just comparing two different spreadsheets of our databases to check for accuracy. It's not real exciting, but I still like the office. It definitely seems more laid back than my previous job (what? you can listen to music with headphones in both ears here??!) and the people seem pretty cool...hopefully we will all get along.

So, I will keep you all up to date of any new developments on the job front. I am hoping to get moved into my own apartment by the beginning of March so I've been looking around at possibilities and have found a few. I can't wait to get my own place...not that living with my mom has been bad, but having my own personal area will be great. =)

I have a few other updates but they would take awhile to explain and I'm needing to go to bed, so I will try to write again in a few days.

Predetermination

So on New Years Eve this year, I pretty much chilled at home by myself. I painted my nails and watched "Paranormal Activity." It was pretty fun...I've never really been a big New Years Eve person so a relaxing night was good for me. Anyway, just after midnight, my dad called me to say happy New Years and we got to talking. It was a really, really nice conversation. Sometimes my dad and I tend to just talk about what we've been doing for fun lately so it was a good change to talk about emotional stuff. Anyway, he gave me some really good advice, part of which was that I don't need to make decisions about what my life will be right now. I have time to figure things out and I shouldn't rush into anything.

I thought that was great advice because I realized that I have been doing that lately, predetermining what my life will be. I've basically already decided that I don't want to get married again and that I don't want kids. After talking to my dad, I realized that it is just foolish to try to make those kinds of decisions right now. Yeah, right now I'm not feeling the marriage vibe, but you never know what the future holds. I might meet my dream guy down the line and I don't want to have talked myself out of marriage at that point and say no just to say no. Same goes for kids...I'm not ready for them now but I will probably want them at some point. I'm only 25 and still have a lot of my life to live, so I guess you could say that I am making the resolution to be more open-minded regarding myself and my future. My natural inclination is to plan everything in my life, but I just don't need to do that and I am going to try my best to stop.

Another piece of 'Dad advice' (from my Christmas card) was to make 2010 the "Year of Sam" and I am going to do just that. I am going to seek my own happiness. I might find it in a surprising way, but I am going to be open to the opportunities that present themselves. I decided this was the time to put myself first and that I am going to spend the year spoiling myself. =) I just hope that the "Year of Sam" turns out better than the "Summer of George" did on Seinfeld!

Christmas

I thought I would start out with a little slideshow of my niece and nephew from this holiday. =) I don't really have much news to go along with this posting. We mostly just hung out around the house...did a little after holiday shopping; I spent too much money but got a couple of really hot dresses so it's okay. ;) We went out to dinner a couple of times but didn't see any movies since having a 13 month old around isn't conducive to that. But it was great to have Rikki, Drue, and Taylor here and nice to spend some time with them. I hope everyone else had a a great Christmas!!

Never Again...

So lately I've felt myself becoming a little more bitter again. I am trying not to because I don't want to be that person, but I also can't help wondering to myself why in the heck Ryan married me if he was having doubts about it beforehand? Seriously. I gained like 60 pounds, lost 3+ years of my life, ended up getting a useless degree because I never thought I would actually use it, and racked up about $20k in debts I wouldn't have otherwise had (with the new car and student loans). I just don't know how he thought he was doing me any favors.

I don't think I will ever get married again. My mom is adamant that I will change my mind about that at some point, but I'm not so sure. Really, why bother? Even just a serious relationship...I don't think I will get involved in one of those for quite a while either. I'm learning you should only rely on yourself to create happiness and when you start depending on someone else to do that for you, nothing but trouble comes from it. I guess I'm just cynical about romance right now, and beg all my married friends not to hate me for writing all of this. =)

In other matters, I haven't heard from the psycho texter since my last blog entry. The cheating husband has sent me a couple of texts since then but I've just ignored him. I made another friend named Kyle who I've hung out with in the past week, but we are just friends. So, really no new boy news and I'm kind of hoping to keep it that way!

I still haven't heard back from the job, which is starting to make me a little nervous. But they did say that they were just hoping to have made the decision by the time they leave for holiday break, which means they have until Wednesday of this next week to contact me. *fingers crossed!!* I would really like the job and have already found a nice townhouse in Nampa for pretty cheap that I could rent, so it would work out well. More than anything, I just want to know their choice for sure because then I can put in more effort to looking elsewhere.

This has been a really boring week. I am finally to the point where I am going crazy being cooped up in the house all day, so I'll be really happy to get a job. My sister and her husband and daughter will be here on Wednesday so I am looking forward to having them around. =) It should be a fun holiday and I am really going to try to focus on the positive things in my life because I know there are plenty. Anyway, I hope all of my blog readers have a WONDERFUL Christmas and will post some updates for me to read after!

Psycho Alert!

Oh man, I'm laughing already...I can tell this will be a fun post. =) So remember Boy #2 that I described to y'all yesterday? Well, he's progressed to the point of being a psycho stalker now. After he was so very rude about my pictures, I stopped texting him. However, he went into work shortly after that so I guess he figured that was the reason I wasn't writing him. I went to bed early last night and when I woke up, I had the following five messages waiting for me...I am presenting them as they were written even though some of them make me want to throw up:

10:29pm - "What!! Did you think I forgot about you? Mmmm I still want to taste those lips they look irresistable mmm" (I KNOW! GAG!! Hahahaha)

10:55pm - "Baby if you don't feel like meeting me yet thats fine but you can at least text me and get to know more"

11:13pm - "Fine then i wont text you anymore I am a very sweet guy and so romantic hope u dont miss this chance to get to know me I Hate U"

12:01am - "U sleeping ? Baby"

12:31am - "Good night Princess"


I really couldn't believe it when I read those. He says he hates me and then proceeds to call me by two pet names? Seriously, crazy. But I hadn't gotten any messages from him by the time I went to my interview at 11am so I thought maybe he had gotten the hint. Nope...


11:20am - "Hello beautiful"

11:37am - "Are u just making me me wait? ?? ?"

12:06pm - Texted a photo of a red rose.

12:28pm - "Mmmm big eyes WOW your a very beautiful gal Your lips look so tasty" (GAG again)

12:40pm - "Hi sorry for bothering you Sweetie im gona still be waiting for your reply i dont care if it takes months for you to finally feel comfortable to text me i want you to know that you are a very beautiful gorgeous pretty girl i'll keep on texting you once every day so you dont forget bout me haha Sweet kisses Muah"


I have really just been laughing my ass off at him! He is really crazy. The weirdest thing is that he is very attractive (if the pictures he sent me are really him) so I have absolutely no idea why he is so obsessed with me, a girl he has never met, really knows nothing about, and whom he told needs to lose weight. Really? I mean come on, really? From the sounds of it, I might have a long term stalker on my hands. He hasn't texted me since the last message so I'll wait and see if he makes good on his promise. If so, I think I'll just have to block him through Alltel. I am just glad he doesn't really know anything about me...particularly a last name or address because he might just be crazy enough to come kill me in the night.

OH here's a fun idea for my blog readers...let's take a psycho poll. We will introduce a Boy #3 at this point and you can tell me if you think Boy #3 is more or less crazy than Boy #2, the psycho texter. Boy #3 was a guy I met almost four years ago at the Sundance Film Festival when a roommate and I went down there. He stopped me on the street and talked to me for a minute. He was working so I figured he was just trying to promote his product but then he asked for my number and said we should hang out sometime. The problem was he lived in Utah and I was in Rexburg going to school. I gave him my number though and he called a couple of times, but I told him I would rather email with him at the time so we could get to know each other that way. Things fizzled quickly and I hadn't heard from him until this last Thanksgiving. Out of nowhere he sent me an IM on Yahoo saying happy thanksgiving. At that point, I added him as a friend on facebook. So on Monday we talked on Yahoo Messenger for about an hour. He told me he is living in Kentucky now and is getting divorced. He offered to buy me a plane ticket to come out and visit him. I asked if he was serious and he said "as a heart attack" and claimed he always regretted not getting to know me way back when. He then offered to come to Boise instead of me going there, if I preferred. Well, I did a little research and have come to the conclusion that I think he is lying about the divorce. When I asked him what the waiting period for a divorce in KY was, he said that it was 6 months to a year when a child was involved (he has a daughter). But I looked that up later and it's actually 60 days, even with a child. Also, on his Facebook account he is still listed as married to his wife and they are still friends. He also posted some pictures on his account only a week ago which included her. Just a really weird situation I don't want to get involved in, so I have been avoiding him too.

So which is crazier? The texter or the cheating husband? And how am I attracting so many weirdos? Am I some kind of dirtbag magnet? I hope not. I'm deleting my myspace account today so I'm hoping this prevents future problems. =)

In a quick side note, I had an interview for a job today that is pretty similar to what I was doing at UVU. I think it went pretty well and I will hopefully hear by next week. =)

Boys suck

So a couple of weeks ago I decided to restart my MySpace account, which I had canceled when I got married. MySpace, much more than Facebook, seems to be about meeting new people so I figured maybe it would be a good thing for me to try. Not so. I've talked to a few guys on there, mostly casually, but a couple I got to know pretty well.

Boy #1 was the first guy I really met and talked to on MySpace after I started my account. He seemed to fit the type I usually go for. He seemed like a good guy...cute, funny, sweet. There were three or four nights that we talked for several hours, staying awake until 3am just chatting. It was really nice. We met in person about a week after we started talking online, but then it seemed like after we hung out he started acting a little weird...wonder why? He started taking forever to respond to texts or instant messages and seemed like he was avoiding hanging out again. I wasn't clear on the reason either. I had sent him an unflattering picture of myself before we even hung out so he knew that I was overweight and his response was "weight is something you can change." But honestly, I can't think of many other reasons for his change in behavior than the fact that he didn't like what he saw. So now I am in a waiting game with him. I talked to him briefly on AIM last night but that's been it for the past several days.

Boy #2 messaged me out of the blue on MySpace and we talked a little before he requested my phone number so we could text. I gave it to him. That was only yesterday. By today he was telling me how much he liked me and how I was "so beautiful". My first reaction to that? Why and what do you want from me? Boy #1 usually said I was "cute"...I can understand cute and believe he was being sincere when he said it. Maybe it's low self esteem but when a guy calls me "beautiful" it's just hard to swallow. So I sent Boy #2 the same unflattering pics I had sent Boy #1 so he would be totally aware of the not-so-good body I have these days. Boy #2's response? He wanted me to send him new full body shots since those were taken awhile ago and said that I need to lose some weight and gave me diet tips. Goodbye Boy #2.

So these experiences have lead me to the conclusion that I need to delete my MySpace account. Nothing but trouble has come from both situations. I really was starting to like Boy #1 but he suddenly changed his tune, and if it was because I wasn't as pretty as he was expecting...well, that just sucks. I don't know what to do about him so the situation will remain unresolved. As for Boy #2? That was just a beating on my self esteem that I didn't need.

The problem right now is that I have a lot of trust issues with guys. I think I have started expecting that they will lie to me. I caught a third boy in a lie and immediately wrote him off. Boy #1 and #2? I was always looking for things they said that might be lies...particularly Boy #2. Why did he act like he liked me so much? What could he want from me? Was he the type that purposefully went after heavier girls because it was easier to get what they wanted from them through flattery? I couldn't help but think those things and it didn't make me feel any better...it made me feel worse, obviously.

I feel like going out and buying a Marie Calendar's pie and eating the whole thing myself. =P